DATING RULES: HARMONY LEADS TO SUCCESS

“Opposites attract” we all know the good old saying but what really makes for dating success is compatibility. If someone you date challenges you in a positive way that is great. If they disagree with everything you say it is probably not going to work. We all know it is good to try new things but if there is one dating rule that you should follow it is this: “personality goes a long way” And there are fundamental traits that need to be examined to see if you and your potential lover are suited for long-term relationship bliss.

If you are the type of person who is always considering others it can be disappointing when the thought is not returned. Small gestures can often make the most difference to a happy relationship. Thoughtis the process behind every action that we take and allows us to make sense of the world. So why should this be any different in our relationships. Consideration of each other’s feelings is paramount to the build up of trust. A lack of thoughtfulness could mean that someone you are dating is not ready or cannot commit enough of their time to a meaningful relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Attentiveness

Listening to each other is essential to a functional relationship. Constantly repeating yourself is boring and it is much more fun when your partner recalls something you talked about the night before. Of course, sometimes we all forget things but listening is a rewarding experience especially when the favour is returned. The best way to check your compatibility in this area is to communicate. Talking in person or over an online dating website such as eHarmony will give you the chance to notice how attentive you are in response to your date and how they respond to you.

 

Emotional awareness

Some people cry at films or books; music or the sight of natural beauty moves others. Whatever it is that gets your partner emotional it is good to respect their feelings. Being aware of situations or past issues that may affect your lover emotionally is something that comes with time but it is usually easy to spot if someone lacks sufficient emotional intellect.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Openness

Letting down your barriers can be a daunting thought when it comes to dating. But for long-term success it is important to let people in and show them who you really are. Trust is the keystone to a good partnership and being open allows your lover to share a vulnerability that many others will never see.

 

Sociability

Introducing friends and family to your new flame is a great personality test to see if you are compatible. Yes, there are initial nerves but anyone worth their salt will make an effort to enamour the people that are closest to you.